James Coomber of Wiltshire lives with his wife and their two teenaged sons. He worries about the misogynistic content teen boys consume across the digital space.
See how James deals with misogyny that comes from popular online influencers and celebrities.
James and his wife are increasingly concerned about misogynistic content online, especially in recent years. Much of this misogynistic content comes from well-known influencers and celebrities on social media where his teen boys see it, says James.
“I’ve come across various examples from Andrew Tate to Donald Trump and Jeremy Clarkson,” he says. When these stories hit the news, James talks to his sons and is careful to make sure they feel able to share their own perspective.
“When we first talked about Jeremy Clarkson’s comments about Meghan Markle, there was some disagreement to begin with. [His sons] are both big fans of Top Gear and Grand Tour, and they found it hard to accept that someone they followed and watched for years had made such a derogatory comment,” he says. “Initially they tried to justify the comments, but this was to their hero worship rather than because they agreed with what he said.”
James often worries about the role celebrities play in shaping the attitudes of the teenage boys who admire and follow them. “It’s fairly easy to discuss why something is inappropriate when it’s a big media story,” he says.
“But what’s more concerning to me is the number of celebrities who use the internet to regularly make more ‘minor’ (in the eyes of the media) comments that aren’t picked up or discussed in mainstream media.
“The statements are designed to be funny or banter, but they’re sexist and bullying behaviour. This drip, drip of sexism tends to be brushed over by the media in favour or more shocking or controversial stories that drive clicks.”
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James Coomber is a teacher who lives in Wiltshire with his wife and their two sons, aged 13 and 15.
Both boys are keen users of social media, and James encourages them to never take statements that look like facts at face value.
“It’s so easy to make statements online that look like facts, but I’ve lost count of the number of times one of my sons has told us something as fact, but when we ask where the information is from, it turns out to be TikTok! We always advise them to look up things on known websites such as BBC or other reputable news outlets rather than trusting social media sites.”
James says that the online environment can create a culture where teens see misogynistic behaviour as acceptable. “If it’s okay for celebrities and politicians to make these comments unchallenged in the media, then surely they must be acceptable for teenagers to make?”
As teenagers, the boys also worry about the growing negativity towards young men in the media and worry that online misogyny means men are tarred with the same brush, unfairly.
In light of these challenges, James says he speaks regularly with his boys, and offers this advice to other parents:
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